10 Top Signs the ‘Perfect’ Doctor is Actually the Person in Disguise
Are you wondering Why does the photo ‘DIVIDED’ into ‘GLOW’ and ‘SHADOW’? The answer is simple. ‘GLOW’ means that your baby will be soon a reality. So, in the nearest future, you will be holding that small, warm bundle for the first time, breathing in the gorgeous scent of his/her skin and staring into his/her gorgeous eyes. You will understand that this warm bundle completely redefines the meaning of love. You will think that all previous things, which were associated with negative moments worth nothing compared to what you are having right now. And your Treatment was just a part of your story. The past is part of your story.
‘Shadow’ means that your baby will be only in your vivid dreams. Intrigued why? Because choosing Your Doctor leads you to success or to failure. If you choose a ‘PERFECT’ Doctor who is far away from ‘PERFECT’, you won’t be able to have a baby. You might try IUIs and IVFs unsuccessfully for the first few years. Frustrated, scared and confused, you went through months of testing, procedures, the endless waiting and many disappointments. You were the bundle of nerves. Finally, your body will seem to ‘shut down’. You will be heartbroken and scared. Because you would have been through so much with infertility and other issues, and it finally will disrupt your nervous system. But if you choose wisely and find yourself a professional and respected Doctor, your Treatment will come out perfectly.
The only question is how to choose the MD who is experienced, and who won’t treat you only in a business way. Who can empathize, be caring and be supportive. Who won’t make you feel like you are an ‘Object’ or a ‘Two–legged Wallet’. Wondering how to choose your doctor? Glance through the article ‘10 Top Tips How to Choose the Best Reproductive Endocrinologist/Immunologist for IUI, ICSI, IVF Treatment’. Wondering HOW to understand that ‘Perfect Doctor’ You’re Consulting with is Actually a Person in Disguise and far away from perfect? Glance through our ‘GOLD [RED–FLAGS]’ COLLECTION’
When you entered the Fertility Clinic, you were captivated by the opportunity of becoming a parent. The atmosphere of Divine beauty which you have never ever envisioned in your imagination. Accurate shapes. Pastel colors. Wonderful scents. Everything seems beyond your imagination… Gorgeous sunshine comes inside through the huge windows and the fresh air flows whirl pastel–colored tulles. Wonderful blushed peony bouquets in three ivory vases on the receptionists’ desk. And the glittering crystal chandelier above that smiling receptionist. Elegant ivory–colored buffets and teal–colored settees are placed near every MD’s office. Large–sized photos with newborns are placed on every wall you have glanced at. All the medical staff you see there is smiling.
Don’t be entrapped by all these things. Because not everything that glitters is gold. We collected 10 Top Signs that ‘Perfect Doctor’ You’re Consulting with is Actually a Person in Disguise and far away from perfect. These signs strongly indicate that you should leave this office because the person you chose to be your doctor is not for you.
10 Top Signs [red flags] which strongly indicate that you are choosing the wrong person
If you noticed at least one of these signs, don’t choose that ‘Perfect’ Specialist. Because he/she is not perfect MD., he/she is the wrong person in nice packaging. Stop business relationship immediately and never regret that. Because if you continue with this ‘Perfect’ Doctor, all in all, you will be alone with your problems.
10 Top Signs [red flags] which strongly indicate that you are choosing the wrong person.
1. When you are nervously explaining your situation, the doctor absolutely ignores your nervous tension, doesn’t listen to your words, just notes down something and glances through his/her phone to read texts messages. And this situation lasts all the time of your consultation!
He/she disguises himself/herself as a perfect specialist and seduces you perfectly well he/she always has the right things to say [when your words do not interfere with his mind–flow and the context of the message he/she is typing in reply while you describe your situation]; he/she has exquisite verbal skills and use that to his/her advantage. He/she is basically so attractive, you wonder if he/she is for real. He/she is impeccably charming. And utterly negligent to you, yours words, and your situation.
2. The doctor doesn’t want to explain you the medical terms
Speaking candidly, your first doctor’s appointments were unbelievably overwhelming. But there is one ‘BUT’. He/she doesn’t spend the time with you to explain everything. He/she thinks you must know all those medical terms: ‘EH, FSH, AMH, sperm count, motility, Fragile X, and follicles vs. oocytes’. Do you understand them all? No? Neither do I. Should you spend your time on these weird terms? Or, probably, would you like to prescribe yourself meds? Or, maybe, should you choose your Treatment Protocol? By the way, do you know what is ‘TREATMENT PROTOCOL?’ No? Neither do I.
3. You are proposed only top–priced IVF Treatment packages
If you can choose the other Treatment Options like IUI, ICI but the doctor insists on top–priced IVF Treatment packages without reason, just say: ‘NO’ and leave his/her office. All that he/she wants is your money. Nothing else.
4. Your doctor is not available most of the time after his/her ‘working hours’
Doctor must be available. If your doctor doesn’t answer the phone on the weekend and you have acute pain and bleeding? That means that he/she will not go out of his/her own way to call you. If he/she doesn’t call you back and he/she rarely picks up the phone or takes a long time to reply when you contact him/her, then this might be one of the most alarming signs he/she is ‘PERFECT’ professional player.
5. Your doctor never calls you back to say that your results were ready one week ago, and you should come
Nowadays text messaging is often favored over phone calls. If the doctor mainly and sometimes contacts you via text message/messenger, or only via his/her assistants, it means he/she doesn’t really care about you. Your doctor could be interested only in money he or she will receive the next time rescheduling your tests and medical screening. Save your time and money by reviewing only the best specialist in the market.
6 It is really hard to have a phone conversation even if it is those ‘working hours’
You are struggling to have a one–minute conversation with your doctor but are constantly rejected. Even after having called him/her the twelve times? No call–back option in your doctor’s ‘PRICE–LIST’? And the next time you have your consultation, the doctor even had forgotten that you called him so many times. Are you sure to continue your Fertility Treatment with him/her?
7. Your doctor is always “TOO BUSY”
If your doctor has you on a schedule and only sees you on certain days or when he or she "feels like" this could be a major red flag. If he/she doesn’t have the time to consult you or notifies you at the last minute that your consultation has been rescheduled on Thursday afternoon, 03.00 P.M, even when you are saying: ‘It is impossible for me’, it is a red flag. It may be because he/she has scheduled the consultation with another patient who is more important than you. If you hear him/her tell you that he/she is too busy, and then you hear that he/she had three consultations in ‘YOUR TIME’ [the time you had scheduled, and your doctor rescheduled], then this is a sign he/she is ‘PERFECT’ professional player. The fact is that if he/she really wants to discuss your Treatment, he/she will find the time. Being busy is not a big deal as everyone is now busy, but he/she is always “TOO BUSY” for you, you are undoubtedly being played.
8. Your doctor doesn't take your opinion into consideration
If your words are ignored and the content is neglected at all, do not hesitate to leave your doctor’s office forever.
If the doctor doesn’t listen to you at all. If the doctor listens to you but doesn’t hear what you have just said, or what you told the previous time. If the doctor listens with utmost attention, agrees with your versions but does everything in his way. If you are explaining your situation the third time, be sure, it is a red flag. All in what the doctor is interested in is your money. And if every your visit starts with glancing through the consultation price-list and at the wristwatch because there are so many patients are scheduled for today to retell their situations, leave his/her office immediately.
9. Despite the price for the consultation is typed in the clinic’s pricelist ‘200 USD’ the doctor told you 400 USD
Are you sure that you want to continue your Treatment with this ‘RESPECTED’ doctor? And if something would cost 1000 USD, should you pay him 2000 USD because it is ‘YOU’? Or maybe it is better to Make the comment that the price is actually 200 USD, and not 400 USD. And never see this ‘Perfect’ fertility specialist again?!
10. After ‘YOUR TIME’ is finished it doesn’t bother your doctor whether you discussed everything or not
The doctor’s wristwatch makes him/herreally inspired. It is 01.00 P.M. And that makes sense! His/her lips curl into an amused smile because the next ‘WALLET’ or ‘PURSE’ is waiting outdoors. Oh, eventually, you uttered your last words in ‘YOUR PAID TIME’. Do you want to discuss the side effects those IV’s meds caused you? Do you want him/her to change them? It is no–no topic for today, next time. He/she even doesn’t listen to your words. ‘Ms. Ashly, invite the next patient, please’. Do you really think that this doctor can help you?
If you have noticed the following 10 red flags, do not hesitate to say this ‘PERFECT’ Doctor: ‘NO’. And leave the MD’s office forever. This ‘PERFECT’ Doctor is not for you. He/she doesn’t have the time for your Treatment. Because he/she is interested in himself/herself. Your problems are a no–no topic for discussion. Because it is your problems.
Never ever choose this one kind of ‘RESPECTED’ Specialist. Remember that there are so many really perfect, experienced, and sympathetic doctors who are ready to help you in any time and in any situation. The only thing you need to do is choosing the correct one, guiding yourself and learning about all the procedures before going into your first consultation is a big plus.