Top Tips for Bonding with Your Unborn Baby
Surely you have envisioned in your mind the first ‘DATE’ with your small bundle of joy as a magical moment and a strong connection between you two. But what happens when if you don’t FEEL that emotional bonding with your baby.-Don’t get frustrated. You shouldn’t feel this way, sometimes it takes more time to engage to your baby. Or maybe you find it hard to bond with him/her without seeing or actually being able to hold them. It can take more than two months after your baby is born before you truly will feel connected to your child. Don’t feel guilty. Just try to go through your pregnancy imagining the great moments you will be able to explore once your baby is here and all the positive energy it may bring into your life. Here are some few tips that will help you during the process of motherhood.
1. Use Your Voice
You have a voice. Blended with emotions, it has so many ‘HIDDEN ISSUES’. Confused, cordial, delicate, embarrassed, flirtatious, irritated, indignant, sensitive, – all type of emotions. Your beautiful voice, the unique voice, the strange and wonderful voice that is your own. No one else’s. Why do you hide it? Use your voice to make the cordial connection with your small bundle, because your voice is the SOUND she loves to hear. Your voice always resounds in her soul with a special glow, because she is constantly listening to it while being inside. When she is born, she will respond to the sound of your voice, turning her head and glancing at you.
2. Avoid Screaming and Shouting
Your voice is not only cordial, reassuring, and soothing, but it is also unforgettable. Your voice makes your small bundle forget all the other voices heard around. When you start the conversation with anyone, she hears nobody but you at first. Therefore, avoid screaming and shouting. She may get startled and you will feel her curling up inside so powerfully and painfully as she is trying to jump out.
3. Touch Your Bump Delicately Without Pressure
Your small bundle loves your delicate touch. Run your fingertips across your bump, accurately hug your bump with your hands, let your significant other to pull you closer, and to hug delicately your bump.
4. Answer to Those Little Kicks
Your tiny bundle starts practicing those tiny ballet movements re-positioning herself inside by cuddling up, kicking, stretching, twisting, turning, wiggling between 16th – 20th week of your pregnancy. Feeling how your baby cuddles up, twists, turns, stretches and kicks inside for the very first time will be one of the most emotional–inspiring, most beautiful, most unforgettable moment. Those gentle flutterings you have been feeling will soon turn into intensive kicking and strong shoving. Respond to her movements. And be sure, she adores when you are answering back. Respond to those adorable and unique little kicks by running your fingertips across your belly, delicately poke back or stroke back when she nudges you and see what she does. You can also accurately rub your belly in the area you feel those tiny movements and see what she does.
5. If Your Little One Repositions Herself Several Times Stop Playing with Her
During the last months of pregnancy, the tiny bundle becomes a small bundle and starts not just practicing those tiny ballet movements re-positioning herself inside by cuddling up, kicking, stretching, twisting, turning, wiggling, but expressing herself with more power. The little kicks were adorable and unique, and now they are sometimes also divine but sometimes they are painful enough. If you noticed that when you are hugging your bump around, or press it with your wrists, or run your fingertips over it and your little one re positions herself several times, do not do it. Because your small bundle doesn’t like being touched all the time.
6. Follow and Respect Her Mood ‘Tendencies’
Sometimes she loves to play with you and even anticipates your touch in any form: when you run a finger on your belly, while lying on your bed, when you cuddle up with your belly to your beloved, when you sit and delicately fondle your belly, when you embrace your belly with your hands or when your beloved embraces your belly and fondles it accurately, but sometimes you will be given a powerful response from inside. If your baby kicks and you powerfully push-back, the baby may move away and stick out her arm, her leg, or change quickly the curling position inside. Or if your little one sleeps inside, and you are constantly touching your bump, she won’t be happy to awake and to fall asleep twelve times a day.
7. Download the Apps and Read Articles About Pregnancy and Babies
There are a billion to choose from, so put some thought into it and get the applications that suit your personality. Then read them. Pick one chapter, read it, then spend five minutes thinking of something mildly interesting or intuitive to say about it. Glance through the respected articles written by the medical staff (doctors, nurses, midwives) about the growing inside little ones. Especially those with photos or pictures to understand how your small bundle looks like this week.
8. Take the Bump Photos
The bump photos focus your attention on your growing baby. Spend some time every week to take several photos of yourself sideways on. As you compare the bump photos from every week, you will be able to notice how much your baby bump is growing during the pregnancy. This visual reminder will give you time to understand the occurring changes of your bump shape and size. Do not forget to wear something special for these ‘self–photo sessions’. Book the professional pregnancy photo shoots when your Bump will be visible enough to depict it. The professional pregnancy photo shoots are really inspiring because they make you feel special and unique. You will have more than some gorgeous moments captured by the professional photographer, you will have the visual representation of the alterations happen to you. Do not forget to take to the photo studio tulle gowns, lace, rhinestones, headpieces, other accessories you do love to wear or to have, bouquets of flowers, tiny baby lace rompers and all that you associate with this miraculous occasion.
9. Select Several Wonderful Outfits to Underline Your Bump
Get some inspiration from the Couture clothes. Google the respected designers and glimpse through their collections. Is there something romantic, stylish, and dramatic, that is the perfect addition to your clothes ‘tendencies’? Long spring dresses with cape beaded appliques, the embroidered elegant tulle pastel–colored gowns that flows away from your body, so you can twirl with delight, move and sit more comfortable without paying too much attention to how to sit, or those attention–capturing dresses full of voluminous silhouettes made with clouds of diaphanous fabric trimmed with gorgeous soft shimmer lace, that accurately and gorgeously outlines the bump, making a strong accent on it, your beloved finds you utterly attractive. And you feel yourself special, you understand that your baby is gorgeous while being inside while wearing something new.
10. Buy the Presents for Your Baby
Yes, those little things for your baby. Those tiny lace rompers, lace and rhinestone headbands, tulle tutus, bodysuits, panties, baby’s bootees, and so on, and so on… So many of them… Here your imagination is welcomed! Just get some inspiration from pintrest.com before leaving your apartment :)
Bonding with your unborn baby is a wonderful experience. It is awesome if you FEEL that LOVE now. But what should you do if don’t? Just listen. You may not feel that delicate unbreakable emotional connection between you and your unborn baby. And you should not be ashamed because of it. Sometimes it needs more time, or even the moment when your small bundle with glittering tearful eyes curled up, is placed on your chest to feel that. You will love her, just be sure.